twenty things i'd rather do than be on my phone

a non-exhaustive list for the limited time i have on this earth

While I pride myself on having healthy digital boundaries these days, I still have moments where I get back to old habits — incessantly checking notifications, mindlessly refreshing my feed or tapping through stories for fresh content to consume. In times like this, when I actually notice this unhealthy compulsion, I do my best to check myself, going back to this list of questions meant to challenge my internet impulses. Many stick out to me, but there is one question in particular that I take especially seriously. So much so, that I often put it pen to paper, physically writing down my answer as a way to remind myself that there’s an endless list of things I’d rather do with the limited time I have on this earth than be sucked into the metaverse (for more than I already am).

Below, I’ve re-shared that question, along with my non-exhaustive answer. Should you, too, find yourself wanting to breakaway from the temptations of the internet, I hope this piece reminds you to actually take a moment to list out (and do!) all the things you’d rather spend your time on.

When you think about the time you spend online, can you think of anything you would rather do with that time?

1. Call my parents or brothers

2. Play with my cat

3. Read a book — even if it’s just 10 pages or a chapter

4. Cuddle with my partner

5. Pay a visit to my elderly neighbor

6. Write a letter, email or call my representatives

7. Take a walk or go to the gym

8. Ask a friend or cousin to hangout

9. Tidy my home, even for just 15 minutes

10. Journal

11. Plan a trip

12. Lay outside in the sun

13. Schedule time to volunteer — Reading to Kids is a personal favorite

14. Sit at a local coffeeshop and people watch

15. Organize a Seen Library gathering

16. Remove 5 pieces of clothing from my closet to donate

17. Visit a museum, gallery or exhibit

18. Organize my bookshelf

19. Catch up on other Substack pieces… I know, it’s still online but I swear it’s different? Some favorites to start: Halleta Alemu, Sara Jin Li, Infinite Jaz, Jessica DeFino

20. Allow myself to be bored and see where my mind takes me

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The next time you find yourself glued to your phone, pull out your list — keep it in your notes app (which I now have done!) and refer to it each time you get that itch to open Instagram or TikTok. And refer to it often. Soon enough, maybe you’ll begin reaching for a book instead of your phone or even better, because you’re more present in what’s going on right in front of you, find that you’re not reaching for anything at all.

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